There are no firm stats on how many parents choose to stay at home with
their children, but evidence indicates an increasing trend of moms and
dads who wish to be stay-at-home parents. When a couple decides to divorce,
what is already a complex process can be even more fraught for a parent
who has completely or partly left the workforce to stay home with children.
Because our Oregon divorce lawyers at McKinley Irvin understand how difficult
divorce can be for stay-at-home moms and dads, we have listed important
steps parents should take before and during the divorce process.
1: Analyze Finances
One of the most important factors to analyze before and during a divorce
is finances. Because the cost of caring for a child or children is expensive,
it is important that parents receive the proper amount of monetary support
so he/she can continue providing adequate living conditions for the child
Take a good, hard look at your financial situation and
collect records of income, expenses, debt, assets/investments, property titles, bank accounts,
retirement accounts, and any other papers relevant to your family’s
finances. It is often helpful to also document a detailed budget of regular expenses.
2: Create a Financial Plan
After you have analyzed the finances, it is time to plan how you will provide
a prosperous future for you and your children. At this point, it is important
to answer the following questions (a good attorney will be able to help
you with this):
- Must I begin working in order to care for my finances?
- How much time do I have until I need to obtain a job?
- Am I able to raise and support my children without my spouse’s income?
You may also want to seek advice from a career or vocational counselor
(available at many community colleges) if you’re considering commencement
or resumption of a career outside of your home.
3: Educate Yourself
It is crucial to obtain as much information as you can about the divorce
laws of your state. In addition, it is crucial you learn about how child
support and alimony function in your state. In most cases, it is wisest
to hire an experienced divorce lawyer who can explain what you need to
know before, during, and after the divorce process. A skilled attorney
can help you achieve a favorable division of property and assets, accurately
calculate child support payments, and protect your best interests throughout
4: Take Care of Yourself
Transitioning from a married life with children to a single life with children
can be a challenge for some individuals – and many children. It
is important to remain patient through the process so that you and your
children do not suffer from unnecessary anxieties or fears. It may be
beneficial to speak with a counselor or parenting expert to help you with
these issues. Also, don’t be afraid to accept help from friends
and family during this time if it makes life easier for you and your kids.
Contact McKinley Irvin Today
If you are a stay-at-home parent and are contemplating divorce, we encourage
you to get in touch with our Oregon divorce attorneys right away to discuss
your options. At McKinley Irvin, we understand that the divorce process
can be intimidating. We are here to support our clients through every
step of the process and achieve the most positive outcome possible.
To discuss your case, we invite you to contact our Oregon divorce lawyers
from McKinley Irvin today, or fill out a case evaluation form online.