What Is a Nesting Co-Parenting Agreement?
The divorce process can be extremely stressful, especially on younger children. In an effort to make divorced life easier on the children, many parents have adopted a “bird-nesting,” or “nesting” parenting method, which essentially keeps the children under one roof, while the parents rotate in and out. In other words, each parent takes turns living with their children while the other parent lives elsewhere. There are several potential advantages to this new agreement, but there are also a few drawbacks.
To find out if this method could work for your family, discover how nesting arrangements work.
The Benefits of Parenting Around the Needs of Your Children
It goes without saying that a nesting plan isn’t the only arrangement that prioritizes children’s needs. Every family is different and what works for some may not work for others. A nesting arrangement quite literally centers around the needs of the children.
Children, especially young children, are usually very attached to their home, and change can be difficult for them. For those reasons, keeping the children in the family home they already know can be a great comfort and it can make the newness of divorce seem less scary. Also, they won’t have to move from household to household, which will save the whole family time and energy.
Planning for Shared Space
The nesting plan can work in several different ways, but it usually involves both parents taking turns living in the marital home with their children and in an off-site residence. For example, while one parent is in the home with the children, the other will be in a rented apartment. When the first parent’s time with the children is over, they switch. So, the off-site residence is often one that can be shared by both ex-spouses. While this arrangement can be beneficial from a financial standpoint, it can be challenging for ex-spouses to share the same space, even if they never live there at the same time.
There is always the option of having two off-site spaces. If you and your ex-spouse can afford it, each of you could rent or buy your own property, which you would return to whenever you do not have your children. However, this option can get expensive fast.
You Still Need a Parenting Plan
While a nesting arrangement may seem simple, it is no substitute for a parenting plan. Parents will still need to decide which days they will have the children, who will get to spend which holidays with the children, and so on. Some parents choose to switch off by week, while others share their children daily, or over a period of two or three days. In other cases, one parent may have weekdays with the children while the other gets to spend the weekends with them.
Weighing the Pros and Cons
Nesting may seem like a simple solution, but in some ways, it makes things more complicated for co-parents. Before you make any decisions about your co-parenting arrangement, make sure you discuss the pros and cons with an experienced attorney.
Do you need assistance with a parenting plan? Contact McKinley Irvin to discuss your situation with our Oregon family law attorneys.