How To Protect Your Privacy During a Divorce
A divorce can have a significant impact on your life in many ways, but have you considered how it might also affect your privacy? Most people going through a divorce want to keep their personal lives as private as possible. In order to protect your privacy during the divorce process, consider implementing these defensive strategies.
In our modern age, everything somehow finds its way into the digital world. While this can be extremely beneficial when you gather your financial documents and other important paperwork, it can be troublesome when it comes to the personal aspects of your divorce. While it might sometimes be tempting to vent your frustrations with a Facebook post or a tweet, those comments could do more harm than good. Anything you share online could become public knowledge, and even if you have privacy settings in place, some of your friends might share your post with their friends, and so on.
Some people think blocking their spouse solves this issue, however, any mutual friends might pass your post along to your spouse, creating problems for you. Also, any posts you share on social media could be used against you in court if your divorce isn’t yet finalized. If you do use social media, do so with discretion. (Read more on our guidelines for social media and other digital communications during divorce.)
Be careful about who you discuss your divorce with. It is very important to have a support system you can trust, and discussing your divorce is sometimes very necessary for your own psychological well-being. However, not everyone needs to have a hand in your personal business. Only discuss your divorce with select family members and close friends, people who you know would not betray your confidence and will keep your discussions between the two of you. Some people might ask intrusive questions you simply don’t want to answer, so try to politely redirect the conversation or simply tell them you don’t want to discuss it, rather than sharing information you’ll later regret.
Joint or shared accounts can give your spouse details on your activity. How much you spend, who you call, etc. If you have any joint bank or credit accounts with your spouse, you should get new accounts to use during the divorce process. If you have a family phone plan, get your phone transferred to a new account only you have access to. The same goes for any online accounts that you have ever shared with your spouse (social media, email accounts, etc.). Read here for more details on online privacy concerns during divorce.
You might be cautious about what you do and don’t share with people, but your spouse might not have any qualms with sharing the details of your divorce with the world. In order to limit the amount of information your spouse has to share with the world, consider everything you put in writing. If you email your spouse or text him or her out of anger, think about what you might have to deal with if that information was shared. Sometimes taking a stand is important, but other times it adds fuel to the fire and ends up making things more difficult for you. If your divorce or custody matter is especially contentious, consider communicating via your attorneys instead.
The legal details of your divorce settlement and your court proceedings are a matter of public record in Oregon. You can take action to seal those records if the court approves it. Read our blog post on sealing divorce records for details on why you may want to do this and how it works.
Are you going through a divorce? Our experienced family law attorneys can help you through the divorce process, offering advice to help preserve your privacy each step of the way.
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