Why Rushing a Divorce Can be a Bad Move
Divorce can be a highly emotional process, so it is no surprise that many couples want to get it over with as soon as possible. However, in most situations, it does not do you any good to rush through a divorce. With all of the delicate legal issues that require careful consideration, such as property division, child custody, child support, and spousal support, rushing through these decisions could end up prolonging your emotional pain, costing you property or support that you were entitled to, and/or resulting in further costs to fix issues that arise after the divorce has been finalized.
Here are some compelling reasons why you should avoid the temptation to rush through your divorce:
- Delayed anger. Just because you have reached the end of the legal process doesn’t mean that your emotions have kept pace. Many couples who rush to resolve their divorce as quickly as possible find that they are not happy about the terms that they have agreed to. This may lead to a post-divorce case fueled by delayed anger that wasn’t fully addressed before the divorce agreement was signed. Despite being legally divorced, hasty decisions may bring you back to court for another round of conflict that could take months or even years to resolve.
- Living together for an extended time. A full separation can take time, but some couples, in their desire to be divorced, will file for divorce or even obtain a divorce decree while delaying the actual physical separation. This is a bad idea for several reasons, chief among them being that one party may drag their feet. This can lead to post-divorce fighting that could take a lot of time and money to resolve. Once the divorce has been finalized, the ex-spouses should not live together; this is, after all, why the divorce was sought in the first place.
- Poor financial planning. Agreeing to “anything” in order to expedite the divorce process can have disastrous financial consequences. For example, let’s say an impatient husband agrees to pay his ex-wife’s rent indefinitely to persuade her to get a divorce as soon as possible. While the wife may currently live in an inexpensive one-bedroom apartment, what if she moves into a more expensive condo? Alternatively, should he still be responsible for paying rent if a new boyfriend moves into the apartment with his ex-wife? It can be difficult to consider these types of future questions when your decisions are rushed, but taking some time to think about financial decision-making can end up saving you a lot of money (and regrets) in the long term.
A divorce is more than just a piece of paper – it’s also a plan for your future. With so much to consider, it is important to give it the time and attention it deserves. Rushing will almost certainly guarantee that someone will be left dissatisfied or angry, and that further conflict will take place. This can result in higher legal fees to mitigate the damage done by failing to consider the terms of your divorce from all angles.
At McKinley Irvin, we ensure that all elements of a client’s divorce are handled correctly the first time. Our attorneys come from a variety of legal backgrounds, making us well suited to handle your divorce case with a meticulous focus on your best interests, now and in the long term.To schedule a consultation with a Portland divorce attorney at McKinley Irvin, call our office at (503) 395-0244.