Divorce can be a highly emotional process, so it is no surprise that many
couples want to get it over with as soon as possible. However, in most
situations, it does not do you any good to rush through a divorce. With
all of the delicate legal issues that require careful consideration, such as
child support, and
spousal support, rushing through these decisions could end up prolonging your emotional
pain, costing you property or support that you were entitled to, and/or
resulting in further costs to fix issues that arise after the divorce
has been finalized.
Here are some compelling reasons why you should avoid the temptation to
rush through your divorce:
Delayed anger. Just because you have reached the end of the legal process doesn’t
mean that your emotions have kept pace. Many couples who rush to resolve
their divorce as quickly as possible find that they are not happy about
the terms that they have agreed to. This may lead to a post-divorce case
fueled by delayed anger that wasn’t fully addressed before the divorce
agreement was signed. Despite being legally divorced, hasty decisions
may bring you back to court for another round of conflict that could take
months or even years to resolve.
Living together for an extended time. A full separation can take time, but some couples, in their desire to
be divorced, will file for divorce or even obtain a divorce decree while
delaying the actual physical separation. This is a bad idea for several
reasons, chief among them being that one party may drag their feet. This
can lead to post-divorce fighting that could take a lot of time and money
to resolve. Once the divorce has been finalized, the ex-spouses should
not live together; this is, after all, why the divorce was sought in the
Poor financial planning. Agreeing to “anything” in order to expedite the divorce process
can have disastrous financial consequences. For example, let’s say
an impatient husband agrees to pay his ex-wife’s rent indefinitely
to persuade her to get a divorce as soon as possible. While the wife may
currently live in an inexpensive one-bedroom apartment, what if she moves
into a more expensive condo? Alternatively, should he still be responsible
for paying rent if a new boyfriend moves into the apartment with his ex-wife?
It can be difficult to consider these types of future questions when your
decisions are rushed, but taking some time to think about financial decision-making
can end up saving you a lot of money (and regrets) in the long term.
A divorce is more than just a piece of paper – it’s also a
plan for your future. With so much to consider, it is important to give
it the time and attention it deserves. Rushing will almost certainly guarantee
that someone will be left dissatisfied or angry, and that further conflict
will take place. This can result in higher legal fees to mitigate the
damage done by failing to consider the terms of your divorce from all angles.
At McKinley Irvin, we ensure that all elements of a client’s divorce
are handled correctly
the first time. Our attorneys come from a variety of legal backgrounds, making us well
suited to handle your divorce case with a meticulous focus on your best
interests, now and in the long term.
To schedule a consultation with a Portland divorce attorney at McKinley
Irvin, call our office at (503) 395-0244.